Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Week 3
I was walking out of Dunkin Donuts at the same time a man was walking in. I opened the door to walk out and instead of moving to the side so I can pass, he simply walked in…. leaving me holding the door. For some reason, this really troubled me and I thought to myself “does being equal to men mean having to open the door for men and not feel awkward about doing so?” I don’t think so. I know women deserve equality as men and should be treated with the same respect, but I don’t think this means men should stop being gentlemen. I wasn’t expecting this man to hold the door for me, but I definitely did not expect him to let me open the door for him!!! Maybe I am making a big deal about this, but it was kind of disturbing since this seems to be happening more and more frequently. Is chivalry really dead? I hope not. I am optimistic that chivalry will made a big come back in our society.
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I like your blog because it presents a good point. I especially like how you questioned if women being equals to men means having to open the door for men and not feeling awkward about doing so. I think that anyone should be able to hold the door for anyone at any time. I do not think that men should only be holding doors for women; but too for other men. Why does it matter what the gender is? If someone is right behind you or coming in as you are, it is common courtesy to hold the door for them.
ReplyDeleteLike you, I do not expect men to hold the door for me, but if it occurs that they do not, I too am taken back. It’s funny; if a female friend holds the door for me I’ll say something like ‘oh you’re such a gentleman.” I think it is the traditional gentleman role for men to hold the door for women, and I do not think that it will go away completely.
Sometimes I get annoyed if my boyfriend insists on getting the car door or tries to pull my chair out for me when we are out to eat. I am not crippled, I am able to open my own car door and pull out my chair. Though I feel it is unnecessary, it is still nice when he makes the attempt. I sometimes will beat him to the car and open his door for him. He laughs at me shuts the door and opens it himself, and says it is not my job to open the door for him because he is the man. What a nerd! He hates all these gender courses I am taking because I always implement them into daily life. He thinks it’s obnoxious, I think its fun :)
As you can see I have mixed emotions on the topic. I really am intrigued by it, and interested to see what it will be like 15 years down the road.